You’re so sensitive. You’re so emotional. You’re defensive. You’re overreacting. Calm down. Relax. Stop freaking out! You’re crazy! I was just joking, don’t you have a sense of humor? You’re so dramatic. Just get over it already!
If you’re a woman, it probably does.
Do you ever hear any of these comments from your spouse, partner, boss, friends, colleagues, or relatives after you have expressed frustration, sadness, or anger about something they have done or said?
This article holds so much truth for my experience it almost makes me cry to read it.
Or maybe that’s only because I’m hormonal and over-emotional today, who knows.
I wish there were faith-free cities. That’d be nice.
Well, that runs into all sorts of problems, the same as having a city mandated as all-catholic or all-jewish.
Just the same, I wish that “surrendering yourself to a higher power” wasn’t the core tenet of basically every support for alcoholics. I mean, I am pretty sure that if your life and your addictions are spiraling out of control, giving up even more of that control to anything is completely counter productive and can easily lead to exchanging a chemical addiction for a psychological one.
How about taking steps to seize control? For finding ways to deal with your stress and frustrations that don’t include letting go of any sense that your actions are what lead to your consequences and not the influence of any outside forces.
I don’t know exactly what happens in these programs but that a magical bearded dude is directly involved is the center of them is so many kinds of bullshit that I just can’t even deal with it.
Edit: apologies to my friends who do have faith. You have your beliefs and I have mine and sometimes I just can’t keep them to myself.
There are some secular alternatives to AA, they just aren’t nearly as popularized; in part due to efforts by AA to disavow organizations that try to provide secular alternatives. They often aren’t even based on the arbitrary, baseless 12-step system at all, which even beyond the unnecessary spiritual aspect is simply horrible with how it stigmatizes the addiction. It puts the person in the mindset that the slightest backslide will destroy every bit of their progress; that the person is ruled not just by a higher power, but by their addiction itself too even after they’ve overcome it.
(Also it turns out that recovery programs without a spiritual component are actually more effective at staving off depression and anxiety than programs with a spiritual component, according to a 2009 study.)
Edit: You know, I should have checked your post that that was a reply to first, I didn’t notice that it was about the lack of such in your city specifically. Sorry :/
I understand that many people want to help their followers out with valuable information. Sometimes this information is overblown, over-exaggerated, or simply false. A few might say, so? Might as well repost it…
Not gonna lie? I was waiting for Idran to debunk this
Debunk which? I hadn’t actually seen those before except the Amber Alert one, and I posted about that one months ago.
I understand that many people want to help their followers out with valuable information. Sometimes this information is overblown, over-exaggerated, or simply false. A few might say, so? Might as well repost it just in case!
This isn’t really a good way to think, because the false reports and information will clutter and overshadow the things we really need to be cautious of.
False stories that have been spread around on Tumblr (that I’ve seen):
It is odd, the more that I am with these people, the more I can consider them as less as friends and more as a family. We have spent a vast amount of time journeying together, learning, and seeking our goal. To be quite honest, I do not know how such a mismatched group of adventurers came together.
A near-blind lizard woman who has more insight than any other. A rouge who has taken to stealing a fellow adventurer’s heart. A fighter and warrior who is the most innocent and carefree of us all, A gnoll alchemist who often seems sidetracked more by bones than potions. A paladin who remains silent, leaving matters to settle themselves. And myself, an Inquisitor, completely out of his element.
These people are quite something else.
We have fought giants, guided caravans, hunted the worst scourge imaginable, defeated monstrous acidic slimes, traveled into the depths of the earth, and fought with beasts most unnatural.
This quest seems to be taking its toll, though. I am not quite sure if we can succeed, or what we might do after we succeed. The Fates are often mysterious, and I wonder at what I may have to do before this is done.
A gnoll who wishes to bring back a fallen God. Two lovers who may fight the future itself to ensure each other’s safety. An oracle who may try to change the path we walk upon. A paladin, her own order and cause a mystery.
Any may attempt to change what is Fated, and I fear that I may have to strike one of my companions down, if worst comes to worst. I know their goals, I know their purposes, and I know they cannot be easily dissuaded. No, such passionate people will not rest until success is within their grasps. Admirable, but also frightening. Would it be better to fall upon my own blade rather than live with having hurt a member of my own group.
Not that we have much of a chance to even get that far.
This quest, this redemption seems like more of a suicide mission every passing moment. No one else seems as tense and worried about it as I. Perhaps they hide it well, perhaps they are trying to ignore it. All I know is that if I must live the remaining a hundred and twenty years of my life, having watched each of them cut down in battle, I will bear their oaths and stories of valor myself. If my memory of these brave individuals are all that remains of them in the end, so be it.
Our journey will resume shortly, and I shall attempt to provide more details in my next report. Many apologizes, but these thoughts are something which plagued me, which the Order mentioned such thoughts as Vital for one such as me.
Time travel is already possible. In fact, it exists.
We do a great job of moving forward, just as we are doing now.
But think about this: If time travel could be accomplished one day in the future, then it will have always been possible. And those future travelers’ ability to arrive in the moment we call today means that time travel could exist here, just not in the direction that you meant.
You’re forgetting that many examples of time travel involve systems that only allow travel back to the instant the time machine was brought online.
(Also anyway either you can’t change anything by going into the past or you need to do some sort of trickery with quasiprobability distributions to preserve unitarity)
“There’s this fan group that hates me…and they wanted everything to stay exactly the same…they hate me…they watch the show so religiously…it was pretty easy, if someone wanted to, to memorize every single fucking prize…this guy was in the front row who was a fan of the producer who…left the show…and he memorized all the prizes and he was giving everybody all the prices of all the prizes…I don’t care what that fucking guy said, he got it from that guy in the front row; we got it on tape…we expect people to know something and shout it out…but it was weird that…it was done out of malice…to screw over the show.”—
Drew Carey on Pop My Culture #67. Fuck Ted, fuck Terry, fuck Golden-Road.net and their majority mouth-breathing congregation. Get out of your house, hands off of mouse/dicks, and live a little. (via fuckyeahgameshows)
“There’s nothing wrong with being happy. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying something so much that it strips away all that irony and cynicism. And there’s nothing wrong with loving anything so much that it feels like it could pull your heart out of your chest and toss it on the floor. We build ourselves up to not do that, and then we build up the armor so thickly that we have trouble finding what’s underneath. We use that as an excuse to lash out at people who do feel stuff, who do like things (and I am, of course, mostly saying this about myself). It’s hard sometimes to remember that the world isn’t a place to glide through, so nothing can touch you. It’s a place to be experienced.”—Todd VanDerWerff (via valjeans)
If thinking that all necessities in life that a person requires to be a functional, well-feeling member of society (i.e. school, health-care and security through police and fire-fighters) should be free and run by the government without profit interest makes me a socialist.
Ok I started season 4 of Breaking Bad today. I’d heard that there was going to be more violence from here on out, but I figured it wouldn’t be anything I couldn’t handle.
One episode in and a certain scene left me legit traumatized. D=
Still gonna keep watching though, cause the show is awesome and all. I might ask Roger if there’s anything I should watch out for in future episodes (he’s also a big fan of the show =3), but I still don’t want any spoilers!
I also started watching Twin Peaks today and it’s really good so far! Also I had no idea until recently that it was by David Lynch. I’d been meaning to check out his work as well as this show, so I guess that worked out pretty well, lol.
I know exactly the scene you mean, and I know what you mean about it. Offhand, without going into spoilers, I can only offhand think of one other scene that has the same level of violence, but it’s in the finale. I could be forgetting something, though.
Also, Twin Peaks is also awesome, but it does go somewhat downhill not far into the second season, after Lynch left the show. Stick with it, though, because it recovers immensely by the end of the season.
So we were talking about the gay rights debate. Yay, prop 8, gone! But nayway, they were talking about it going to the Supreme Court, but if it did, then the whole “you can’t deny any group right for no good reason things” might not apply if they do not define the LGBT community as a group. Because some LGBT people date both genders, and it is not black and white.
I found this very disturbing. Not just because I think that you should be able to do what ever you want as long as you are not infringing on other people’s rights, I think discriminating against people based on sexual orientation, and I have strong feelings about this, because being told by his family he was going to hell for being gay contributed to my friend’s suicide and I want to live in a world where that is not acceptable.
But if are not defined as part of a group, then the 14th amendment does not protect your rights. And our government, which is pretty corrupt decides who is considered a group.
That scares me.
The 14th amendment doesn’t say anything about groups, though. The relevant section:
Section 1. All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside. No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.
It refers only to citizens here, not protected groups. Any argument that “LGBT isn’t actually a group, and so it doesn’t need to receive equal protection” has no legal standing.
Oh man, as if the Republican primary couldn’t get any better. The conservatives, evangelicals and Tea Party are scraping bottom at this point and are desperate for anyone but Romney.
Remember people, if you don’t vote this November or make a protest vote for some third party, you’re effectively giving a vote to whomever the Republicans nominate in our effectively two-party system.
That’s not really what happened in this case. See, the Missouri primary was a huge mess; Gingrich didn’t qualify for the ballot, neither Paul nor Romney did any campaigning there, because the primary doesn’t actually matter, it’s entirely meaningless because they weren’t able to legally move it to March as they wished. The revelant bit will be a caucus held there in March.
Turns out the whole thing is a big mistake. In compliance with this year’s RNC rules, Missouri Republicans decided to move the primary to March. But the bill the legislature passed to do so succumbed to a veto because it contained non-germane elements offensive to the governor, and Republican solons couldn’t get it together to enact a clean bill. To avoid RNC sanctions, the state GOP decided to hold a caucus in March to select delegates, leaving the now-meaningless primary in place.
The only Republican who seems pleased with the scenario is Rick Santorum, who chose to campaign in Missouri to score a symbolic victory. Perhaps that will work out for him; he’s leading in the polls. If he manages to lose, though, Missouri Republicans won’t be the only ones who look stupid.
what if there are people who think hurricanes are sexist/transphobic because they’re destructive and they’re given female names
What about Andrew and Ivan
yeah they alternate it
one year it’ll be a female name and then a male name and then another female name
and the next year it’ll be a male name then a female name then another male name and so on
they have a big list of names every year too
they go according to the alphabet
i am looking too much into this
The yearly lists run in repeated cycles, too, since most named tropical storms never amount to much. When a given storm does major destruction its name is retired and replaced on that list with a new one. So there’ll never be another Katrina but other storms from Katrina’s year that didn’t do anything will have their names repeated eventually. IDK why I didn’t know that until recently; I thought they had to come up with new names every year and wondered why they still had relatively traditional ones to use.
I can’t wait until we run out of traditional names and then have to start using weird names like celebrities do.
I want to be there for Hurricane Kal-el (that is what Nick Cage’s son’s name is, no lie.)
I think maybe you misread something, Bailey. We won’t run out of traditional names because they only retire one when it’s associated with a major or significant storm; otherwise there’s a repeated cycle they do every few years.
Beyond that, there’s separate names for each region of the ocean as well, not all with names from the US. Other countries contribute names too, which are then used in alphabetical order.
guys guys guys guys ‘Watching The Clock’ is fucking AMAZING
and let’s face it you have no idea what it’s about
OKAY so if you’ve seen the Star Trek DS9 episode ‘Trials and Tribble-ations’ it’s about those two killjoys who interrogate Sisko about the events of the episode
and it turns out they’re actually really fucking awesome
and so is everyone they work with
and the book itself has a lot to do with time travel without being totally confusing and full of plot holes
in fact everything works out as far as I can tell, which is impressive seeing as the guy who wrote it factored in pretty much EVERY TIME TRAVEL INCIDENT IN STAR TREK
(there are a lot of those by the way)
and every character is treated with respect and basically I adore all of them so you’re lucky this post isn’t just ‘aksjbdAKLSBFajanflkjdbaBABIES’
I mean seriously
do you know how wonderful it is to have a female character be rejected by the male character she’s in love with and ACCEPT IT and MOVE ON and continue to work with him without being all Nice Guy about it? And then they’re adorable friends and <333333333333333333
Every single time someone makes a post about how all m/m is fetishizing and anyone who writes it is a cesspool of internalized misogyny I just have to laugh. There are definitely some problematic aspects of m/m slash and definitely some people who do (some admittedly) fetishize m/m relationships. If you do the stuff on this list, you should probably check yourself. Hard.
Do you tell everyone that you hope your children are gay men so you can ship them with their friends?
Do you ignore and/or vilify the lady characters?
Do you ignore the men of color because you think only white men are attractive and interesting?
Do you ship two attractive white dudes, and only two attractive white dudes, in everything?
Have you ever asked who the woman is in a relationship between two men? Do you designate a male character the “woman” in the relationship? This is not okay because the whole like, point of a relationship between two gay dudes is that we are, you know, dudes.
Do you call gay men in relationships that are not part of the yaoi subgenre “seme” and “uke”? On that note, do you make a huge deal out of stuff like “Who tops?” This is a really silly thing to do! Some gay men who have anal have a preference one way or another, some don’t. Sexual preferences are not always dictated by personality traits, either! Some men who paint their nails prefer to top, and some lumberjacks prefer to bottom.
Do you put anal sex on a pedestal as the only kind of “real” sex two men can have? A lot of gay men don’t even have anal sex.
Do you think that “true love” is between two men because ladies are gross?
If there is a feminine male character who shows canon interest in women, have you decided that he has to be gay?
Do you say that you are a “gay man in a woman’s body”? Please stop saying that. Queer trans* men are, you know, literally gay men in bodies perceived to be female, and they have to face a pretty fair amount of adversity for that! Claiming to be a gay man in a woman’s body because you like to read and write about gay men is trivializing that. Please don’t do it.
Do you see a picture of two gay men walking down the street and freak out about it? I mean, like, we do that. We do stuff! We’re people. We do things like walk down the street and eat food. There’s no reason to make a huge deal out of that!
If you answered no to these questions, then I am pretty sure you don’t need to check yourself. I don’t think anyone with a lick of sense is going to argue that there is a lot of misogyny in fandom, internalized or otherwise. But occasionally enjoying m/m is not an infallible indicator of internalized misogyny.
A lot of people who enjoy m/m and f/f are, you know, queer people. Queer men, queer women, queer non-binary folks. It is not fetishizing for queer folks to want to read and write about queer people. Whenever this argument comes up, we are always the ones left out. It is always a strongly worded letter to the Evil Fangirls.
It is entirely possible for a lady, queer or otherwise, to write respectful fanfiction about gay men that normalizes gay relationships. This actually like, happens a lot. While I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being shallow as long as your version of shallow doesn’t exclude marginalized groups, I am pretty sick of seeing ladies who like m/m in any aspect being repeatedly dismissed as a bunch of screaming and woman hating fangirls unable to think critically about material. What was that about misogyny again?
Distant memories that breach at the most unexpected times, like an ancient whale coming up for air after a hundred-year meditation. Suddenly I remember. It all comes back to me in a single instant:
It started with the sickness.
Gray clouds blanket the sky, the smell of the ocean on the wind, carrying salt. I am no older than six or seven. I’ve been sick for almost two weeks, wracked nightly with nightmares of a man with a blurred face. I can’t stop coughing, mucus coming from my lungs black as tar. My eyes are bloodshot and there’s a constant, hollow din in my ears. I’ve been to the doctor—multiple doctors—but no one knows what’s wrong with me. Probably just a bug. Lots of rest, lots of fluid. But I throw up half of everything I eat and I’m growing thinner and thinner, my ribs protruding from my chest like the teeth in a grin.
Fuck you, read more, you never work for me on the first 400 tries.
The next time this happens, hit the HTML button in the edit window, and remove the <p> tags from around the <!— more —>. That’s the reason for that problem every time I’ve had it, and it always seems to fix it. Not sure what causes it exactly; something about cursor positioning, I think. Especially if you’re sticking one into a post you’ve already written up.
Anti-femme culture (and feminists aren’t immune to this) thinks the effort put into femme presentation is a waste of time and energy – or, at the very least, time and energy that could have been spent doing something more important. Anti-femme culture thinks ‘pretty’ probably means ‘dumb’ even when struggling against a culture obsessed with an impossibly narrow beauty standard. Anti-femme culture thinks you can’t do math AND do your nails.
We are humans! We contain multitudes! I do not think it is a problem that teenaged girls are interested in experimenting with presentation via fashion; I think it’s ridiculous and misogynist that they are ONLY encouraged to do that – and that boys don’t have the same freedom of expression.
This pattern — women can dress like men, but men don’t dress like women — suggests that there is, in fact, something demeaning, ridiculous, or subordinating about presenting oneself to the male gaze. Most men feel stupid, gross, or vulnerable when they do it. This isn’t just about conformity to different gendered expectations. If it were just about difference women would feel equally weird dressing in men’s clothes. Instead, when women adopt masculine ways of dressing and moving, they often feel empowered.
So, when men do femininity they feel ridiculous and when women do masculinity they feel awesome. This is what gender inequality looks like.