My definition of a Good White Person






Someone who knows that they will make mistakes that can hurt PoC, and it is completely unavoidable.  But they take responsibility and try to be conscious of their words and actions.

Notice I didn’t say “perfect.”

Notice I didn’t say “nice.”

Hell, I didn’t even say “not racist.”  This is a very important thing to recognize here.

Just reblogging to piss off white people who think they are “good,” and who think I’m “bad” for not thinking of them as highly as they think of themselves.



A good white person doesn’t have to be not racist?7

What is this?

Is the person who is making this distinction a person of color?

Aren’t good white people a fairy tale/myth?

Yes, I am a person of color.

The point was, the “good white person never is a racist” IS a myth.  They ARE racist, they are going to be racist.  And they have to hold themselves responsible for that and deconstruct it.

White people continuously denying that they are not racist usually leads them to be racist assholes, then they don’t take responsibility for that because there’s just no way they can be racist!  They’re good white people!  Then, they just blame us.  That’s what makes white people fucking horrible.

That was the entire point of the post. 

A couple days ago…



i experienced something that borke my heart. Something the perhaps every child of colour has experienced. I went over some of the members of my church house, they’re all younger girls and teens, and we just went to hang out. They are all really sweet. The youngest girl felt left out of the conversation so i went to play the wii with her. She wanted to make her own mii character so i let her. She went in and selected face shapes and everything and when she was done, her mii was white, with brown hair and blue eyes.

I asked her “Is that you?”

Se told me”No. She’s pretty.”

I said, “Well, why is she white? She’d still be pretty if she was black. She doesn’t look like you.”

She said”She won’t look right if its black.”

I said “You’re beautiful, make it look like you.”

She sighed, as if the utter idea of changing her skin and eye colour to actually look like her was too much work. She cycled through the skin colours one by one asking me if these were the right colours. She’s pretty dark, so when she finally landed on the right one, which was the very last one, she didn’t look at me. Se just sighed. She didn’t even want to change the hair and eye colours to look like her. She said “they dont have braids anyway.” and then she named her mii and kept her with straight brown hair, changed her eyes brown and dark brown skin.

She looked at me and said”She doesn’t look right.”

I asked her “Why? You don’t think she’s beautiful?”

She didn’t say anything so i left it at that. I was so upset about the whole thing that I couldn’t even talk about it relly til now.

People say white washing doesn’t affect our children. They say children can’t see colour. They say children dont care about racism…. they say a lot of things, none of which are true. If they were, i doubt any of this would have happened, or has happened to our Children of colour.


[tw: just about everything really] The Top 6 Reasons Why You Should Hate Dan Savage


1. Dan Savage hates trans people and uses transphobic slurs.

“Children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives. Perhaps I’m a transphobic bigot, but I honestly think waiting a measly 36 months to cut your dick is a sacrifice any father should be willing to make for his 15-year-old son. Call me old-fashioned.

Unfortunately, your ex wasn’t willing to make that sacrifice (selfish tranny!), or it never occurred to him to make that sacrifice (stupid tranny!)…. If your son can’t deal with having his dad/mom/whatever around right now, support him and tell his dad/mom/whatever to leave the two of you alone for the time being.”

2. Dan Savage believes that bisexuals do not and should not exist.

“I’m not saying bi guys are bad people, or they don’t make great one-night stands. Bushes, bathhouses, and sleazy gay bars are crawling with bi guys. But if a guy wants more, he’ll have an easier time getting it from another gay man.”

3. Dan Savage has admonished women for not putting up with their partner’s sexual desires and has criticized female rape survivors’ stories.

There the guy was, boned for you, and he was brave enough to put his desires out there, to make himself vulnerable (which is what the ladies are always saying they want, right?), and you lobbed the ol’ “What?!?” bomb at him and made him feel like a freak. Is it any wonder that he quickly moved on to “other things” and, one would hope, better sex partners?”

I’m extremely sorry that you were raped, DRARS, although your baseless accusations of rape make me doubt you when you claim to be a survivor of rape. The feminist bloggers are going to accuse me of thought crimes: If a woman says she was raped then, by God, she was raped. (Tell it to the lacrosse team.) But if my reaction to your letter is a thought crime, I can only plead entrapment: I wouldn’t have had these illegal thoughts if you hadn’t sent me such a stupid letter in the first place… Finally, DRARS, I hereby withdraw my consent for you to read Savage Love. If you continue to read my column against my will, well, we all know what word to apply to your actions.”

4. Dan Savage thinks that racist gay white men are less of a threat to African-Americans than homophobic African-Americans are to gay people.

EDIT: The quote below is indeed Dan’s response to Prop 8 and black homophobia, I have added some more of the senseless shit that has spewed out of his mouth so that no one will be confused as to how much of an asshole he is:

“I do know this, though: I’m done pretending that the handful of racist gay white men out there—and they’re out there, and I think they’re scum—are a bigger problem for African Americans, gay and straight, than the huge numbers of homophobic African Americans are for gay Americans, whatever their color…I’ll eat my shorts if gay and lesbian voters went for McCain at anything approaching the rate that black voters went for Prop 8.”

EDIT: Here are some more lovely gems from our resident asshole Dan Savage on his rampant hatred for everything not white, male, and gay:

5. Dan Savage thinks asexuals are secretly “fags”.

“I appreciate the feedback, Stephanie, and I’m sorry I offended you. But… um… I couldn’t help but think, as I read your letter, that your boyfriend is either a fool or a fag. But if it works for you guys—if a romantic relationship devoid of sexual attraction and activity works for you guys—then it works for you guys. Who am I to argue with success?”

6. Dan Savage is fatphobic.

“First off, LARDASS, you neglected to include a sign-off, forcing me to create one for you. I tried to create one that captured the spirit and tone of your letter, and I think I did pretty well… I am thoroughly annoyed at having my tame statements of fact—being heavy is a health risk; rolls of exposed flesh are unsightly—characterized as ‘hate speech.’”